If I could turn back time
If I could find a way I’d take back those words that hurt you…Cher

I sim­ply can’t com­pete with a damsel in dis­tress! Note to all you guys: You can’t save a damsel if she LOVES her dis­tress! Def­i­n­i­tion: The help­less­ness of the damsel in dis­tress, who can be por­trayed as naive, young along with her need for others(mostly men) to res­cue her.
Is it that guys like to play hero? Do they need to find woman to res­cue so they can assume the “knight in shin­ing armor” role? Does it make them feel masculine…or just needed. Who doesn’t like to feel needed and appre­ci­ated?
You might be a damsel
…if you need a man to save you.
…if you feel depressed when you are sin­gle.
…if you dump a guy and have another lined up.
…if you are not happy with­out a man.
…if you have a strong need to have chil­dren — maybe they’ll stick around

Some men like needy women because men like to FIX things. So they look at this poor pathetic mess of a woman and fig­ure they can make it all bet­ter and she’s just been with the wrong men. When real­ity is that she prob­a­bly made some poor choices and it may not be totally the men in her life that were at fault.

So as I was research­ing this info from the internet(which has to be true right? LOL) it tells me that since I am mar­ried to an aries I should:
Let Him Res­cue YouAries men are chival­rous at heart; they love noth­ing more than to find a damsel in dis­tress to res­cue. Give an Aries man some­thing to do, then lav­ish him with praise when he comes through to save you. Then find another way for him to prove his worth; Aries thrives on meet­ing the needs of oth­ers and being praised for it.
Guess I can’t com­pete with one…I just have to be one. LOL

I am amazed at how much can hap­pen in 16 years, and how quickly it can all roll by!
Lit­tle his­tory on how we met: We were both work­ing at Golden Cor­ral, he was a cook and I was a server. I thought he looked like the guy on The Princess Bride. I got the nerve to ask him if he saw the movie and all he said was, “NO!” and went along his merry way. So that was that. I think the next day I called in to go to Sea World and he had thought I quit. When he found that I didn’t quit he told me he would like to see the movie with me. While we were watch­ing the movie at my apart­ment, we held hands. He was the sweet­est guy and still is! On our first offi­cial date, his cat knocked his phone off the hook…yeah he had one of those! LOL and his alarm clock didn’t go off — that was his way of say­ing he didn’t want to go the Bay­lor vs. Rice Foot­ball game. ;) We ended up going to a movie and he had to call in and let the boss know he was going to be a bit late. It turned out to be like a three hour movie! I fell in Love!
A suc­cess­ful mar­riage requires falling in love many times, always with the same per­son. ~Mignon McLaugh­lin
I am falling in love with you all over again and I intend to a ton more times. Love you — You’re the best!!

Speak­ing
Novem­ber 8, 2010
Let me start by say­ing I’m not a big fan of stand­ing in front of the church and speak­ing. It ter­ri­fies me more than just about any­thing I’ve ever done in my life. I’ve spo­ken in front of peo­ple before so it’s not com­pletely a fear of speak­ing. I’ve stood in front of 60–70 guys in the shop and it didn’t bother me. I know my job. I know I’m com­pe­tent and con­fi­dent. You aren’t going to ask me a ques­tion about my job or what I’m speak­ing on that I won’t know the answers to. I’ve stood in front of some pretty large Bass tour­na­ments and Bass Clubs and was fine. I could hold my own. I could stack up against any­one stand­ing there.
But…. Church… Man that’s a whole other story. It ter­ri­fies me! I’m scared to death! I feel like as I stand there every­one in that church can see every sin I’ve ever com­mit­ted, thought of com­mit­ting or even heard of. Its like there is a sports ticker going over my head read­ing out the time, date and offense.
Well a few months ago Mike was preach­ing on Advent Con­spir­acy. I thought it was kinda silly for him to be doing that in Octo­ber. The last thing I was think­ing of was Christ­mas. That’s months away. Well then to top it off he starts list­ing off the things North Point spent money on last year and he says “Goats and Chick­ens”. Really? Goats and Chick­ens? So after laugh­ing about him say­ing that it kinda stuck with me. It com­pelled me to follow-up on it and see exactly what in the world we would spend money on that for.
So I found out the orga­ni­za­tion that we worked with on this, World Vision is who North Point used. It took me all of about 20 sec­onds on their site to fig­ure out there isn’t the least bit of humor in these “Goats and Chick­ens”. There is noth­ing funny or cute about them.
Every 15 sec­onds a per­son dies in this world from hunger! So in the time it took me to snicker at the thought of “Goats and Chick­ens” Some­one DIED!
Every 7 sec­onds some­one dies from lack of clean drink­ing water! 7 sec­onds! We take longer than that to take a swig of the clean water we have from our sinks in our house. It takes you longer than that to pour out the water from your bot­tled water that you no longer want because its warm.
So as I looked at pic­ture after pic­ture of peo­ple who are suf­fer­ing and DYING from lack of some­thing so sim­ple and expected from us. I can’t wrap my hands around it. I can’t fig­ure it out. I don’t under­stand how a God that can bless me with so many bless­ings. Bless me with so much food that I couldn’t begin to need it all. I don’t under­stand how He can let that kind of suf­fer­ing exist in the same world that I’m so blessed in.
I don’t have the answers. I don’t know why. I don’t know how. But just like I felt com­pelled to see how God could use “Goats and Chick­ens” to effect a change in oth­ers lives. I want to explore how my bless­ings and their suf­fer­ings can co-exist in the King­dom.
I’m ask­ing you to help fund Advent Con­spir­acy. Help fund some­thing big­ger than your­self and your needs. God is big­ger than our igno­rance. He is big­ger than our doubts. He is big­ger than our fears. He is so much big­ger than our lit­tle world that we like to think we con­trol. Make the sac­ri­fice. Not out of guilt but out of under­stand­ing that it is how we show a love like no other love this world knew until it was lived on the cross.